Thursday, January 14, 2010

Sharpening My Ax

While searching for quote for an article I'm writing, I came across this one from Abraham Lincoln:


If I had eight hours to chop down a tree, 
I'd spend six hours sharpening my ax.  

When I read this, the first thing that popped into my head was a writer honing her craft.

I've dabbled in writing since I was sixteen. Life had a way of filtering into my dreams of publication. As I look back, I realize God was giving me life experience to incorporate into my novels.

I've been writing seriously for the past decade, slowly honing my craft...or sharpening my ax. Honing my craft isn't limited to writing the best possible story. It also involves learning more about the publishing industry and hearing what agents and editors want. Sharpening my ax may necessitate some expenses such as writing books, online workshops, writing conferences or retreats.

I met with an agent at a writer's conference who told me she didn't like to hear a writer say she had been writing only a year or so before pursuing publication. That agent wanted to see writers who took the time to sharpen their axes--learn the craft, get a feel for what publishing houses wanted, understand the sting of rejection.

Sometimes people want something so badly, they rush into a situation without being prepared. There's a reason they keep getting those rejection letters. Yeah, they suck, but editors and agents are looking for great writing, not mediocre.

Even though it can be frustrating and discouraging, take the time to sharpen your ax. You'll be rewarded when it's time to cut down your tree.

How long have you been writing? How long did it take you to receive your first contract? Knowing what you know now, what would you have done differently when you started?

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Know Your Limits

Yesterday I mentioned hubby's emergency appendectomy. He was released from the hospital a week ago today with doctor's orders to "take it easy." So, of course, he was driving on Thursday, which I'm sure is not what his doctor had in mind when she wrote out his orders.

"She didn't say I couldn't drive."

Sigh.

He's a grown man. I have two teenagers already to mother. No need to mother my hubby, too. Apparently he knows his limits.

Or so we thought.

Yesterday Hubby resumed his regular schedule, but straggled in the door after 3 pm looking like taking off his shoes was going to be too much of an effort. His body was saying, "yo, dude, chill out, will you? I can't take much more."

Knowing our limits doesn't apply just to recovering from surgery. It applies to every area of our lives--family, job, church, finances, friendships, hobbies...the list goes on.

January is beginning to feel overwhelming to me. It's the beginning of tax season so I'm preparing my business expenses for Hubby to do our taxes. I have three articles due this week. I have the debut issue of the My Book Therapy ezine coming out next week. I was trying to have my novel completely edited and ready to submit by the 15th, but that's not going to happen. I have four birthday gifts to finish before month's end. I need to submit a scene for a critique. Oh, and, I have an upcoming writer's retreat to prepare for. Can't forget about two Sunday school lessons to do this month. Oh, yes, and DS #1 goes back to college on Sunday--need to help him make sure he has everything ready for a new semester. And this does not include my fifty-hour work week or usual housework that never ends.

Oy!

As a whole, my list looks overwhelming. But I need to know my limits. I can't possibly do all of that in one day. However, if I break those things down by day, they're a little more manageable.

Whether we're trying to finish that novel, recover from surgery, face a new college semester, prepare for tax season, we have to know our limits. We don't run our cars until they're sputtering on the last gas fumes before we pull in the station for a refill. We can't run ourselves ragged either. Our bodies and brains need to be recharged with lots of water, healthy foods, exercise, and a good night's sleep.

And prayer.

Even though the Bible doesn't actually say "God won't give us more than we can bear." However, God does promise to be with us always. And with Him by our sides, we can handle those limits.

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Unexpected Circumstances

Last week Hubby complained of terrible abdominal pains. At first we thought it was a stomach virus, but when the pain grew worse with every move he made and kept him awake all night, I became worried. And when he gave me the okay to call the doctor, I knew it had to be serious.

So while I waited for the doctor's office to open, I went to my best online friend...that's right, Google. I Googled appendicitis. Hubby had many of the symptoms listed. A visit to the doctor confirmed it.

Last Tuesday evening, Hubby had an emergency appendectomy.

Totally unexpected...not a typical Tuesday morning event. 

I'm so thankful for living in an area with modern medicine, a sanitary hospital, and skilled doctors. A friend told me about her experience in Russia when her son had appendicitis...shudder.

I was concerned for hubby, but you know what? I didn't feel crushed by this unexpected circumstance. I was a little stressed trying to contact the right people in order for me to close my business early, but than that I felt such a peace about the whole situation.

Oh, did I mention we are currently without medical insurance right now? Yeah. So an unexpected surgery is definitely not in the budget.

We were blanketed in prayer by writing friends, family members, and my church. As I waited for Hubby to come out of surgery, I knitted and prayed. Peace surrounded me like a knitted scarf. I know God heard my prayers. He answered them according to His will. Would I have felt that same peace if Hubby's situation was much worse? I don't know. I hope I would. I can't imagine going through my day without prayer, let alone unexpected circumstances.

No matter the circumstance, God is with us always. He walks with us through the fire and applies His balm to soothe our burns.

When you're faced with unexpected circumstances, how do you cope? Do you find strength in prayer? Or try to go it alone?

Friday, January 8, 2010

Blog Tour Spot: Simple Compassion by Keri Wyatt Kent

by
Keri Wyatt Kent.

Simple Compassion: Devotions to Make a Difference in Your Neighborhoods and Your World (Oct. 2009) encourages readers to start small, think big and work together to change the world – one act of simple compassion at a time. Author and speaker Keri Wyatt Kent inspires readers to make a difference in their own lives and initiate a ripple effect touching their families, communities, cities and the world.

Through 52 weekly readings, Kent provides a blueprint for a compassionate life. Readers who embark on this year-long journey and commit to living out the weekly devotions will radically change their lives and the world around them. Simple Compassion is an ideal resource for individuals and small groups who want to make a difference but don’t know where to start. Kent empowers readers to take small, manageable steps towards a more compassionate world.

“I wanted readers to know that making a difference is not as hard as they think it is: anyone can take just a small step,” says Kent. “The problems of the world may seem overwhelming. But if each person were to help one other person, it would make a huge difference. It would change the world…”

Shane Claiborne, author of the bestselling The Irresistible Revolution says, “True devotions are not just books filled with fluffy stories and neat anecdotes, but books that should stir us to devote our lives to something bigger than ourselves… Simple Compassion is a weekly reminder that things are not right in the world, that this matters to God and perhaps strangest of all, that God doesn’t want to change the world without us.”

Simple Compassion is divided into four sections. The first helps the reader understanding their worth and the worth of others. The second looks at simple ways to show compassion to the family, friends and strangers in their communities. The third goes broader and focuses on showing the love of Christ to their cities and towns. The last section offers steps of compassion and social justice on a global scale.

Each weekly reading ends with two application steps, one for individuals and one to help groups reading the book together connect and encourage one another. These include elements of self-reflection, studying Biblical stories and honestly engaging with group members. She also challenges readers to take practical steps toward compassion, such as bringing someone a cold bottle of water, hanging anti-human trafficking posters or highlighting lower income areas on a map of the reader’s town and spending time praying for the marked areas, then visiting a church in the area to listen and ask questions.

A leader’s guide is included with insights and additional suggested Bible verses for each week.


About the Author:

Keri Wyatt Kent worked as a reporter for fifteen years before writing her first book and is the author of several books, including Rest: Living in Sabbath Simplicity (Zondervan) Breathe (Revell) and Listen (Jossey-Bass). When she’s not busy traveling around the country to speak and lead retreats, she’s writing. She’s a regular contributor to several magazines, including MomSense and Outreach magazine, as well as several websites and blogs. She’s a member of Willow Creek Community Church, where she has taught, led groups and volunteered in a variety of ministries over the last 22 years. She and her husband Scot have two teenage children and live in Illinois.

Learn more about Keri at http://www.keriwyattkent.com.

Simple Compassion
Release: Oct 2009
Soft cover, 272 pp.
ISBN: 0310290775

Lisa's Thoughts: 

I received my free copy of Simple Compassion from the publisher to review and help promote Keri's blog tour. The beautiful cover shows a picture of a tea cup, so, of course, I was drawn to that. Then I started reading and was caught up in the first chapter. I read through it in a matter of minutes. Beginning with the anecdote, my interest stayed until the end of the chapter. I received food for thought with the concluding Compassion Step and Community Step. For 2010, Simple Compassion will be part of my devotional reading.

Pick up your copy of Simple Compassion. Hopefully it will help you learn how to make a difference in your community and in your world!

Thanks for stopping by Keri Wyatt Kent’s Simple Compassion Blog Tour.
Here are the blogs featuring Simple Compassion during our January 4-8, 2010 Tour.
A Little Whine and Cheese
Admissions of a Suburban Philosopher
Be Your Best Mom
Bell Whistle Moon
Blog Tour Spot
Book Nook Club
Carlybird’s Home
CommuniKate
Deus E Fiel
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
i don’t believe in grammar
J’s Spot
Lighthouse Academy
Mary’s World
Musings
Musings by Lynn
Paper Bridges
Ponderings by Andrea
Real Women Scrap
Scraps and Snippets
The 160-acre Woods
The Prairie Maid
The Unadorned Book Review
The View From Here
Word Up Studies
Writer for a Reader

Monday, January 4, 2010

God cravings

Attitude of Gratitude: Thank you, Lord, for an in-home job where I don't have to travel the snowy roads to get to work.

New Year's Day found us celebrating with family--lots of laughs, games, and good food. The subject of addictions came up.

When I think of addiction, I think of the visible ones such as smoking, drinking, and drugs. But there are many other types of addictions that may not be outwardly visible.

An addiction is anything that you have a dependence on and going without this substance or item causes severe withdrawals.

I may joke and tell friends I'm addicted to scrapbooking, my computer, or NCIS. I could go without scrapbooking and NCIS, but I would miss them. My computer is kind of needed for my writing, but I'd live without it. Maybe these pleasures are more like cravings.

A craving is a longing, or a desire for something. We can crave sweets, affection, or something like thrill-seeking sports. Cravings aren't necessarily addictions, but in excess, they can have negative effects on your body or emotions. But not always.

Imagine if society craved God's sweetness and desired to please Him. The rush of His grace flowing through our veins. Getting high on His unconditional love. Craving to be like Him.

Do you have an addiction? Do you have a God craving?

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Why I knit...

Recently several people have asked why I started knitting. Honestly, I didn't have a good answer for them. "Because I wanted to" didn't seem to cut it. As a writer, I've learned we have a motivation for everything we say and do.
My mother taught me to crochet when I was about seven or so. I've crocheted for years and really enjoyed it. I love the look of knitted items and always wanted to learn, but couldn't master using two needles. They felt so awkward.

A lady in my church knits beautifully and offered to teach me. Bless her patient heart. I just couldn't get it. I hate not being able to do something I want.

Bestselling & award winning author Debbie Macomber was our keynote speaker at the ACFW conference. If you read Debbie's books, you'll know she is an avid knitter. I remember watching her knit with a couple of other writers. She carried on conversations with the writers, keeping her eyes focused on them, and kept knitting.

Camy Tang and Allie Pleiter, two authors whose books I love, are writers who knit. I've read their blog posts about knitting, admired their wraps they wear at the conferences. Camy has over 50 posts on her blog about knitting. Allie has a blog devoted to knitting. My friend Marie-Anne is an avid knitter, too. Oh, and I can't leave out Amy. Talk about God-gifted talents!

So, anyway, I decided to try--again--to learn how to knit. I scrounged through my attic for some yarn and came up with a skein of off white acrylic--no shuddering, M-A. Several people recommended www.knittinghelp.com to learn. I watched the knitting help videos over and over. I paused, made sure my hands were in the same positions, and hit play over and over and over. Finally something clicked in my brain and I "got it."

I posted on Amy's Facebook wall. I bugged Marie-Anne with knitting questions. They were both oh so patient.

Hubby uses Lion Brand Quick & Thick chenille yarn for his fly tying. He pulled out 8 skeins of this cozy yarn in a variety of colors and gave them to me. Oh, my! What a gift!

Christmas was coming. I promised Hubby I wouldn't go overboard with gifts. I love to make gifts. I scrapbook, stamp, and crochet, but this year, I wanted to give scarves for Christmas. They are easy for this beginner...and did I mention how gorgeous the yarn was that hubby gave me? Plus, we live in the Mid-Atlantic region of the country. Snow at Halloween is not uncommon. The scarves would be used.

My friend Heidi's birthday was coming up and the Coffee Girls were getting together to celebrate. I cast on stitches and knitted her a simple scarf in a garter stitch--so easy for a beginner like me. The picture above shows her scarf--my very first completed knitting project. Since then I've made 8 scarves and given them away as Christmas gifts. I have 14 more to make before winter's end.

I knit for three reasons:
  • Knitting is a labor of love. I'm crafting a gift for a specific person in mind. A lot of time and love go into those scarves. I'm giving a tiny part of myself with each gift. As I knit, I pray for God's blessing on the wearer.
  • Knitting relaxes me. I can knit while watching TV with hubby. I can knit while playing games with my family. Or knit and listen to audiobooks--combining two of my favorite pleasures. There's something soothing about the gentle sounds of needle swishing against needle and feeling the yarn slide through my fingers.
  • Knitting frees my mind. I can focus on my task at hand, but I can also think through my plots, contemplate my lesson plans for the next day or next week, or ponder other problems I may be dealing with.  
What is your labor of love? How do you relax? What frees your mind?


Friday, January 1, 2010

2009: A Year of Change

Attitude of Gratitude: Thank you, Lord, for a new year and fresh starts.


Our family dubbed 2009 as the year of change.

Due to economic downsizing, Hubby lost his job of eleven years in January. Ouch. Talk about sudden panic. My heart raced. Panic clawed at me until God reminded me He had things under control. Okay, Lord, if you say so. I will trust you.

Oh, my. Trust is so easy to talk about, but not always so easy to do. Well, so far, God has kept His promises. He has taken care of us all year long. With the exception of health insurance for Hubby and me, our physical and financial needs have been met.

In March, I celebrated my 40th birthday...and I did it joyfully. I was thrilled to be 40--partly because I'm told over and over again that I don't look it...hey, I can live with that. But my 40th year was going to be one of new challenges.

In May, I achieved a dream I had been clinging to for 20 years--I received my college diploma. I returned to school in 2006, studied my booty off, and graduated summa cum laude with my associate degree in early childhood education. Despite looking like a dork in my cap, that experience proved we're never too late for an education, or too old to pursue our dream.

My writing is going well. I have two regular writing commitments. I am a bi-monthly contributor to PG Magazine, a parental guidance magazine for families in our area. I'm a bi-monthly columnist for my writing group's monthly online magazine. My novel is in the final editing process. I plan to submit it to an agent, who has requested to read the full manuscript. If she likes it and signs me as a client, she will begin to shop it around. I met an editor at the ACFW conference who would like to read the full. All in God's timing. 

But I wasn't the only one to don a cap and gown last year. Our oldest son graduated from high school. Ah, yes, change was a coming!! We spent the summer buying college supplies. The closer August drew to a close, the more this mama cried. Driving away from that college campus was the hardest thing I've ever done to date. I told a friend that my heart felt like it was being scraped with a carrot peeler. But the tears dried, our budget wheezed with another expense, and our son is growing into a wonderful young man. He just finished his first semester as a biology major. Sure, it had some ups and downs, but God is watching over him.

He isn't the only college student in our house, though. Hubby decided it was his turn to finish his education, so he's enrolled in our local business college pursuing his degree in Business Management and Marketing. He's doing exceptionally well, riding high on the President's list.

I've always said our youngest son marches to the beat of his own drum. He's content to hole up in his room--the batcave as we affectionately call it--where he's usually found with his nose in a book, sleeping, or playing on his computer. He is involved in our church's youth group and choir at school. He auditioned for Madrigals, which is the "elite" choir at school with less than 20 participants. Our oldest made Madrigals during his senior year, and when he graduated, our youngest took his spot. He turned 16 this year, so I'm waiting and wondering when he'll want to get his driver's license. Our boys haven't been in too big of a rush. I wonder if it has anything to do with they need a job to help pay for the insurance increase. Hmm.


Our extended family has given us some scares with medical issues. Cancer, brain tumors, but God is watching over them. They are thriving and doing well.

Despite the challenges of 2009, I'm so blessed. I am surrounded by a loving family. I have terrific friends who share in my laughter and tears. My job is going well *ahem* most days. My writing career is going in a new direction. God continues to provide for us. His grace abounds daily.

I throw out my arms and embrace 2010 because with God by my side, I can handle any challenge.

Lisa Jordan